‘We are the daughters of feminists who said, “You can be anything” and we heard “You have to be everything.”’
Young women with the Paris Paradox were raised in a culture that promised sexual freedom, but what they ended up with looked a lot more like obligation than opportunity….
Not every young girl experiences herself as an object of desire. But virtually every young girl is aware that young women are ‘supposed’ to be desired. Unprecedented opportunities to compete on an equal playing field educationally, socially and financially with men have done damn all to release young women from the pressure to be sexually alluring….
[T]he freedom to learn how to be sexual requires the freedom from sexualization….
One of the most important tools we can give young people — boys and girls alike — is the reminder that their sexuality belongs to them….
With young women, it’s about teaching the difference between the desire to be desired and desire itself.