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another catch-22 from “Catch-22” (film)

Dobbs: You don’t really love her. You only think you love her.
Yossarian: How can you tell the difference between loving her and thinking he’s in love?
Dobbs: You have to be objective.
Yossarian: Who’s objective?
Dobbs: I am.
Yossarian: Why?
Dobbs: ‘Cause I’m not in love with her.
Yossarian: You mean you think you’re not.
Dobbs: That’s right.
Yossarian: So how can you tell the difference?

This is how we love, Buddha-style: impartial to all, free from excessive attachment or false hope and expectation; accepting, tolerant, and forgiving. Buddhist nonattachment doesn’t imply complacence or indifference, or not having committed relationships or being passionately engaged with society, but rather has to do with our effort to defy change and resist the fact of impermanence and our mortality. By holding on to that which in any case is forever slipping through our fingers, we just get rope burn.

Lama Surya Das, “A Buddhist Valentine,” from Ask the Lama column at www.beliefnet.com (via chenoa)

I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said “love is blind”. Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there’s another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space!

The Holiday (via overflowing)

People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it.

(from Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert – via Tumblinas) (via beatingheart) (via therandomnessofyes)

I’ve had many, many soulmates.