Jincy Willett › Consider the Ambivert
When I was a child, people were divided into two groups: extroverts and introverts. Introverts were thought to have something wrong with them: we were assumed to be timid, insecure creatures afraid of the light, and it was a given that we all secretly wished to be extroverts. To turn inward, to keep one’s own watchful counsel, was somehow to let down the social team. Of course, we weren’t team players in the first place, and the only light we avoided was the spotlight. Sunlight and moonlight–especially moonlight–were just fine with us. Routinely rebuked for insufficient vivacity, sub-level enthusiasm, and being an all-around pill, I would lie awake nights plotting the overthrow of the extrovert majority, whose self-esteem, whose very existence depended entirely on us–the watchers, the listeners, the audience, however unwilling.
Happily, rebuked children now abed don’t have to admit to either category. According to Wikipedia, a third has arisen: the Ambivert. The ambivert is not a free-ranging pervert but rather something in between an introvert and an extrovert.
Is the adding/acknowledging of this third, “in-between” identity a step toward eradicating this binary, or just sadly and probably fruitlessly trying to find a “balance” without acknowledging let alone deconstructing the violent heirarchy entrenched in a power structure we refuse to try to think outside of?